Sunday, January 24, 2010

Words For Congratulating New Birth Is It Proper Etiquette To Write Words Of Sympathy In A Thank You Note For A Wedding Gift?

Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank you note for a wedding gift? - words for congratulating new birth

A friend of my mother just lost her teenage son a few weeks ago, died in his sleep.
She sent a letter congratulating us on our marriage. Is it proper etiquette to thank you and that "we are sorry to learn of his son in the same grade it?

21 comments:

odie said...

To the note as a sympathy card. Basically, you can write that incredibly grateful that she has thought about you in the middle of his own pain.

sciencec... said...

I want to send a separate card. This would be one thing if his aunt, but it is a great loss. They want to know the thank you letter part with their devastating loss, if possible. I send the sympathy card at first, but even if that means I thank you for your arrival a little later. I doubt that you mind, and you do not want to support him without his son in the first place.

Henery H said...

No

Send a "thank you" to the gift card, and what was sent, and send a second letter of condolence to the mother, expressing his feelings for her and all the help they can offer.

Keep the emotions and events.

It is very likely to keep all the sympathy cards. It would be wrong to have a "thank you" in the covenant.

Henery H said...

No

Send a "thank you" to the gift card, and what was sent, and send a second letter of condolence to the mother, expressing his feelings for her and all the help they can offer.

Keep the emotions and events.

It is very likely to keep all the sympathy cards. It would be wrong to have a "thank you" in the covenant.

Kauna said...

I do not know what "reasonable", but I did not. I have a sympathy card separately. I did not try to securely, with the finger, but probably already been sent. I understand that planning a wedding is stressful, but if you find the time to send a gift card after the loss, must be able to comment on two different cards you time to send (or have already been sent).

Ms. X said...

As far as I know, no rule of etiquette official about it. But I am impressed by the Council to give my fellow posters. Send 2 separate cards - sympathy first, and I thank you note to arrive at a later date. Sympathy cards are reassuring in a time of tragedy, and it is better not to have this as a note in a letter of thanks.

HIS! said...

Send a card, then I'll send him a note, but never in a printed thank you note card. I'm sending a card with a kind of friction, and write a note to say how sweet it is to the death of his son, etc., etc., and that say a lot, ie, a message he sent congratulations on his marriage.

If they sent a gift, I would also like a thank you card sympathy.

Amy K said...

That was really not a good idea. You need to send heartfelt sympathy card as soon as possible. Then send a thank you card in a few days. It would not be so obvious. In fact, one should not say such a thing in a note of thanks. Education would be a bad thing at the wrong time. Two totally different things ... two separate cards are required at different times. Sorry!

Brownie said...

I do not think there are to many others. But prevention is better than cure. Is it really worth making the cost of a card and shipping to a fool like that? Send a sympathy card separately. It is better to hurt than unintentionally. You do not need now ...

liberty4... said...

If I send two cards. A big thank you and condolences. I see, thank you for the happiest days of his life, and sympathy for the saddest day of his life in the same note. They are so contradictory.

lemonade... said...

I would not. A lucky moment, and the other a tragedy. Spend a little more money to send a condolence card separately.

Melissa G said...

2 cards would be disconnected. Send sympathy, then recognition. Thus, it resembles his usual just say sorry because I said congratulations. Unfortunately, the day 1 and day has come because of the deal in one day.

Charles E. Lentz said...

No, try not to send a letter. H hear (additional message) to the sorry about that too, is sad. And congratulations on your wedding.

Katherine B said...

It would be better to keep both situations separate.Would where you want your marriage to the death of their children? Simply send a 2-letter next to a couple of days.

Katherine B said...

It would be better to keep both situations separate.Would where you want your marriage to the death of their children? Simply send a 2-letter next to a couple of days.

Lydia said...

No, it is not.
Send a sympathy card immediately.
In a few weeks, send the thank-you card.

Psycho Panda said...

Small "thank you" small "is sorry for their loss."
The last thing we need is a long letter this time.
Keep it small, but not indifferent.

Helicrea... said...

No! Send a thank you note to express them, and a separate short note your condolences.

<3 Italian_Pride <3 said...

Send a card, not said thank you, but sorry for your son, hummm! this is wrong. This is not the time to thank him.

salem_ph... said...

Please send two separate letters!

Sheemes said...

No, not thank-you card ...
may send a second letter to .. Do not do it all in one.

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